First of all, as usual , i want to say sorry for the very late update. sometimes i don't have any idea what to post. so instead of feeling confused, i wanted to share a mindful topic here, about stages in relationship. why i share this topic? because i found that this topic is quite interesting. because there's no bond that made g relationship strong here.
1st. Introduction stage
this stage would be a start in a relationship. It's not only us, but in a straight relationship, it's very common for having introduction. what make it different's just the media. some of us might use the application for knowing someone, or maybe go straight for greeting someone next to us frontally? well, for the common way is being known by our friend's friend.
this stage will be a most viral stage for both of the person to continue themselves to the next stage. they usually measure the new guy physically. is it cute? handsome? manly? because it cannot be denied that at first, us, g people value guys physically, that he is interesting enough in our eyes or not.
not finished yet, people will also check the chemistry. is it connect with us when we open a topic, or is he have a good sense of humor? because no matter how handsome or cute the people in front of you, the feeling will be drop if we can't connect to each other.
2nd Intimate stage
In this step, two people usually arrange for next meetings, because of their interest of each other. They will also talk about personal things: hobby, fave food, job, etc.
Unfortunately, in this step, many couple take a next step too soon. So many people do intimate thingy like: kissing, or might be sex. Some of the cause is maybe they are too get carried away by their emotion. Or maybe they want to test the opposite person's performance? lol
this stage could run average from one week till 2 months max, and the average is around 2 weeks till one month. From what i seen, younger people tend to take a decision faster.
3rd Relationship Stage
If two person had done the 2 stage before and they feel comfort with each other, they will be commit one another to be each other's boyfriend. In this stage, their real attitude will slowly come out. Maybe he is not that calm, not that smart, or not that good at bed? lol
Anyway, many gay things thought that this is the last stage of every g relationship. But it is not. I have my own view, that this step is one closer step to the very next stage, the super serious stage:
4th Partnered
Personally i think that the relationship stage should be brought to this stage if they already feel comfortable and sure with their couple. In this stage, they will think seriously about their future together. They might considerate to live together, open a business together, or maybe adopt pet together.
In every relationship, there will a saturation point, where the relationship feel flat, not like in the first-third stage. Because all of the routine will be done together, not for 1-2 months, but years. There's many case that they look for another person and cheat with a simple stupid reason: they want to feel the first time they love a person again. But well, in every relationship, even with a handsome or super cute person, there will be a time that we reach this point.
In a relationship, there's always be a problem. It depends on how we get over it.
