Wednesday, November 12, 2014

Long Distance Relationship

So, in the end, i went overseas for studying languages.

How was long distance relationship? At first, i didn't think that LDR was that hard. Come on, it's just for one year, and for holiday break before the 2nd Semester i would go back to Indonesia, would meet him again. But the truth, managing LDR is hard. Time is not flexible as before. There was time i didn't do anything but he was busy, on a contrary, there was time when i was busy and he didn't do anything.

Anyway, thanks to this technology era, there are so many applications for cam2cam that can be use lately, so with this technology, it would help us to decrease a little for missing each other.

I had asked some of my friends, the straight one, the one that made every LDR became hard is because we couldn't had a physical contact. Physical contact in here wasn't always about sex. Holding hands, hugging, having a joke directly. It has a different sensation when you talk directly and just via chat, right? Of course both of us miss the moment we hugged each other, how we teased one another directly, eating together, buying stuffs together, watching movies together, listening to music together.

We also experienced LDR consequences. You know, when you couldn't speak directly, there's many misunderstand. And because basically we felt lonely, for small problems became a big problems. It's not seldom how we fought over a small thing, that's not need to be a problem.

And, because the condition. My environment there was not the same as before. I had to make a new friends there. And i found it's quite hard, considering i am not the one that can be talkative or adapt in a new place that soon. So, i had to make a friend, whatever it took, or i would had no friends.

To became friends with Indonesian there was not quite easy, too. I had to adapt their life with mine. Some of them were not good in my bf's perspective. For example, going clubbing, shopping, afternoon tea. Well, there were not all Indonesian people did something like that, but you know. sometimes you got bored with people that was too good, that for me, doing daily things that could be done in Indonesia, made me felt bored. I felt like, hey, this is my only chance to live overseas, why i should do something regularly, let's do something more excited!

I am not a multitasking guy, sometimes i can't concentrate for dividing time to bf and my friends here and my bf in the same time. So, that made a new problem. I guess i always make a new problem, eh?

To make it fast..
One semester finally over, so i came back to Indonesia.
Too bad that we just meet once. That's for celebrating valentine day.

Guess what had i prepared for valentine? Lol, it was hard enough for me to give something unusual as a gift. People said, make something by yourself, that is more precious, because just one in a millions. So, i came to this idea. Valentine usually related by "so-sweet" things, so i tried to write quotations for 365 days (yes, i wrote it manually!). I wanted him to read it one per day, so he wouldn't forget how i love him, lol. I wrote that 365 quotations and i put on a plastic like tumbler. It could be an inspiration for reader to give something precious to their loved one. ;)

We had a fine dinner in a hotel near my home. It's because we didn't have any car there, so no choice, just eat near home, lol. And he stayed in my place. Feb 15th, his best friends with their BF came here to play in city where i lived and stayed for another one night in a villa that we rented.

For the second semester..
Well, actually there's not much different from what i did in first semester. Still, i had to find another friends, because in studying language like this, people came and go fast. Unfortunately, this semester's friends, they were all more party addict. They tend to go clubbing often. And, unfortunately i kinda like it. *sigh*

In the end. I could manage all those one year in China.
On Mid-July i went back to Indonesia, for good.
But, actually, the real problem was when i came to Indonesia.

Nb: Reader will find many wrong choices of words, or sentences that grammatically incorrect. I tried to finished this post, but i don't have any spirit to finish it. So this is the result, hope reader can understand what i posted here, hehe. Sorry..

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